Wednesday 29 June 2011

Trying To Get Larger Pictures

Here I am trying to get larger pictures on my blogger blog- I like big visuals!!
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What Do You Think?

Should I stay back on www.dag2dag.wordpress.com or should I stay permanently on this new blog? Pros on this page is that I can uploade videos as well, without having to link them to facebook! I can also add adds and links to other pages, and companies that I love, more freedom than with wordpress I think.

Tuesday 28 June 2011

What Happened to Me?

Really! I look myself in the mirror these days, and what I see makes me jump! When did these extra kilos sneak up on me,when did I let myself go to the point of not plucking my eyebrows??? I must have fallen asleep on the job, the wife job that is. Fair enough that I am a mummy, and that mummies have less time to take care of themselves (unless they are Angelina Jolie or another such famous person with tons of babysitters and help) but that doesn't mean that I am not still a wife, and thus should want to look good for my husband and MYSELF!

I used to get looks when I walked down the streets, and I think it is safe to say that they were the good kind of looks, the she is good looking kind of looks.I was never the prettiest girl in the world, but I was never an ugly duckling either..

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[caption id="attachment_556" align="aligncenter" width="535" caption="around 3 years ago in dominican republic, crazy beach hair, but still looking good"][/caption]

I still get looks now, but only if someone bumps into me or if I happen to walk into someone else, other than that I really am see-through. I feel like Alfons Åberg's invisible imaginary friend Mållgan.  You can just walk right by me and not even notice that I am there..

So it is time for action! I will start by plucking my eyebrows and dropping some kilos, and maybe soon I will be the  yummy mummy we all secretly want to be and maybe look more like these famous moms?



 

Yeah right! But we are all allowed to dream or what??

 

In the meantime I am going to slip into something comfortable (in other words NOT stylish) and head out with all three boys to lick up some sun in the park, the sun is back and it is beautiful!!

 

P.S NO, I do NOT have a self-esteem issue, and I am NOT unhappy with myself, I just recognise that action has to be taken before I go all cave-woman and stop shaving my legs!

 

Blog to you soon!

Maria

Monday 27 June 2011

Time

"Time goes by so fast, and the older you get the faster it goes." When I was younger I used to shrug my shoulders and brush that line off whenever someone told me. I totally disagreed, one year felt like and eternity back then..

Well not anymore I tell you. I hear you and am willing to bet that by the time I am 80 a year will feel more like one month than 12!

It is strange that those few childhood years, from about age 3 to age 7 are etched into my mind so deeply that I can still recall sounds, smells and feelings, but somehow I now easily seem to forget what I did one week ago! Strange what getting older does with you..

I remember playing outside the day-care in a thicket of bushes, thinking that the grown-ups had NO WAY of seeing what we up to. We would giggle and laugh and collect "gold beetles"- tiny little beetles that look like golden ladybugs.I've later worked at the same daycare,


and the kids still think we can't see them through those bushes, they still giggle and laugh and collect the same beetles... We see them perfectly well, we just pretend we don't!

I remember our mom taking my twin brother and me to daycare on the Spark,

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and riding down the hill from our house in break-neck speed (that is what it felt like, really we weren't going very fast)I remember the cold smell of snow in our nostrils, and the feeling of safety that came from the scarf my mom had used to tie us back to back on the spark. The feeling of my stomach doing cartwheels of joy as we swooshed down,down,down the never-ending hill, which is about 25 metres long...

I remember the 10 months we lived and went to school in Greece so clearly that it could easily have been only 2 years ago! I remember my desk at the old rundown school, I remember the old chapel in what was supposed to be the school-yard, I even remember seeing an open casket funeral procession walking slowly by, complete with crying old crones dressed all in black and the body of an old wrinkled lady looking as if she was sleeping instead of being dead.

This sight started me crying as it reminded me of my great grandfathers funeral, which was not an open casket funeral at all and had no procession, in fact the only similarity with the old woman's funeral and the only one I'd ever been to,was the fact that a very old person, who had probably lived a long, hard and beautiful life had died. Yet I cried when I saw it, because I was sad that my great-grandfather was dead,we weren't even close, and because I felt shame and regret that the last time we had gone to visit him at the nursery home where he lived. The very day he died I would NOT go inside. It was scary in there, and we had been there my dad and I only the day before. I didn't like how it smelled in the building, a mix between disinfectant and old stuff, and I thought the fact that my great-grandfather was just lying in a bed and didn't even recognise me was terrifying! I pleaded with my mom and dad not to have to go in, and in the end my dad and I waited outside, I even remember the feeling of the warmth from the hood of our car as we leaned against it in the sun waiting for my mom and brother to come back out. When they finally came out we got back in the car, and drove home, and as we opened the door the phone rang. My mom picked it up, it was my uncle calling to tell us that our great-grandfather had passed away... Guilt hit me then, so badly, for not having gone inside to say goodbye.. Strange how a little girl, I can't have been more than 4 at the time, can feel remorse so strongly that she remembers it, and cries over it a year and a half later when she sees a funeral in Greece...

In our family we were very very pre-occupied with what was fair. It was a big word for my brother and I, very very important and never to be forgotten. I think this obsession with what is fair comes with being twins. We had always had to share everything, and when sharing everything being equal and fair was super important. We had always been raised to think about others as well as our selves, sharing stuff and toys, and sharing and quality being important,it was not anywhere near as important as being nice to others.

In Norway, a socialist country, equality is important, and people being of equal worth no-matter where they are from is preached and taught from an early age. You can imagine our disbelief then when we came to Greece and were playing in the gravel covered schoolyard, as we saw all the kids aged 5-9 running over to the fence and start throwing gravel, spitting and shouting obscenities to some poor kids on the other side.

We were mortified! How could they possibly behave like that?! They were not being nice, they were being damned right evil to this poor kids.We couldn't even begin to understand what was going on... We rushed over to the fence, and peeked through, and saw some of the poorest looking people I have ever seen. Their clothes were either too small, or too big, and tattered looking. And they were all skinny... They were gypsies. Their parents drove around in small,cramped cars filled with whatever you could dream of from toilet paper to garden chairs to watermelons. And I suppose that since the weather was so warm, and the sun was probably baking the inside of the car, they had dropped their kids off outside the church and school to sit in the shade on the pavement and wait for them to come back. The car had just pulled away when the first bully saw them, and started the attack, and the other kids followed as mindless as they were of the fact that these kids were humans too. They were just doing what they had been taught, they had been taught that gypsies were trash, and thus they treated them this way..

My brother and I ran up to the fence and started screaming and shouting too. But we were shouting to the greek kids to back away, and leave them alone. We of course jumped to the defence of the weak, as we had been taught to do, and when the greek kids paid us no attention we ran to the principal, he would surely set a stopper to this...

He came out to see what the commotion was all about, and low and behold he started screaming to the poor frightened gypsy kids as well. He told them to stop bothering the school children and go sit somewhere else.. And they took their tattered old toys, and presumably went to wait somewhere else for their parents.. My brother and I learned something that day, that there was a huge difference between being raised in a small fishing village in Greece, and being raised in wealthy Norway. And as my mom and dad tried to explain these kids behaviour to us, not as something that was ok, but as something that was different, that they were wrong, but that they hadn't been taught better we learned another lesson. That kids will mimic their parents behaviour, and that we were lucky to have parents that knew better..

I have many amazing memories from living in Greece as well, I remember shooting through the beautiful blue water wearing swim fins, and feeling like I was flying. Eyes open in the salty water, and blurry shapes of stones and sand underneath me.



I remember eating copious amounts of what we had named "thing-ice"- a small ice-cream that came in a box that had a secret compartment underneath where you could find a little thing. Usually a toy or a sticker.

The amazing girls that lived upstairs in the house we were renting,



who played with me everyday, even the oldest one who was at least 4 years older than me. And I remember being very envious of anyone who had two sisters to play with. My brother was fun, and my sister was cute, but she was only a baby and more of a doll than a playmate.



I have so many memories from Norway as well, walking through the street I lived in I can spot a thousand places we used to play or make cabins, I can remember all the houses of my childhood friends. We used to come and go as we pleased between our homes. Play a bit here, play a bit there.



It was great.. A summer back then felt like it went on forever, as if it would never end. Now this summer has hardly begun, and I feel like it will be over tomorrow!

I remember never-ending winters, we used to play outside in the dark, the sun never comes over the horizon between November and January when we used to make snow men outside



play with flashlights and dig snow caves. One of my favourite things to do was watch the northern lights as they wound themselves slowly across the sky, sometimes only in green, but once in a while in all the colours you could possibly imagine. And when that happened it would take my breath away, and I would want to run inside to tell everyone how beautiful it was, but I didn't want to risk it being gone before I came back. So I would lie back in the snow and just watch it. It still takes my breath away to this day!



But the fact that I do remember my early years so fondly, makes me want to make sure that Nicholas has beautiful memories from his childhood years as well. I want him to remember these completely careless years as some of the best of his life. I know I can't pick his memories for him, so therefore I want him to have millions of beautiful experiences so that the ones he will remember will be good ones.

I try to think like a child when I am with him, what would make him the happiest, what is the most fun thing for him. And then do whatever I come up with. I'm probably not right all the time, there is so little he can't tell me verbally yet, but I still get  a pretty good idea of whether he likes what we are doing or not.

I am hereby naming my-self a memory collector, and I will keep collecting memories with my boy, and recording them here on the blog for as long as it is still fun for both of us. It is amazing to think that he can read this when he gets older if he needs help remembering exactly what it was we did that time..

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On a completely different note Kenny's team A.I.K won again yesterday, great game and so fun with the first win away this season! I am so proud every time I see my husband on TV <3  Nicholas thinks it is funny too! He talks and points at the TV, and smiles every time they show Kenny kicking the ball..

 

 

Hope everyone has fun making memories today!

Maria

 

p.s when I am in Norway next time I will scan some proper pictures to put on this post, in the meantime you will have to make to with photos of the photos :D

 

Saturday 25 June 2011

A Real Midsummer's Night Dream

Yesterday was a magical day! We woke up late, and after breakfast Ken walked Charlie for a bit over an hour whilst I started making Nicholas midsummer "crown". Usually it is only the girls that wear them, but after asking at the open day care they all said that it was perfectly fine for a little boy to wear as well. I made sure to choose some flowers that were "boyish", in green, blue and white. If we had lived somewhere with a garden I would of course have picked them myself, but since we don't I had to buy them at the store, and they didn't have much to choose from so I had to make do with some flowers that weren't ideal for "braiding" the crown with. Ideally they must have long, soft stems so that they don't break. I only found one bunch like that, the rest were too stiff. So I also had to use some copper wire to hold it all together. I liked the gold so much, that I wrapped way more around than I needed :)

Here is the finished result lying on the diaper bag ready to go to Karin and Lee's house



When we got there Nicholas put his crown on



I even picked his shirt so he would match the flowers! I think he looked so cute!



We arrived at Karin and Lee's house around 1.30 and they had set up a nice big table outdoors on the patio, so nice to be able to sit outside and enjoy the day.We ate delicious strawberries with a choice of cream or Ice-cream.

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Let me tell you, those Swedish Strawberries are really sweet and good!



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And the kids played in the backyard



and even though it looked like it was about to rain, the weather just got better and better, and in the end all the rain boots, rain jackets and the rain-cover for the stroller weren't needed. Nothing better than packing loads of stuff you don't need, it at least beat the hell out of not packing all those things and then needing them!

Around two o'clock we walked down through the forest, past meadows with grazing horses,



on a long, narrow road



To get to the place where the traditional midsommar pole (maypole) would be erected. In  a small clearing surrounded by woods, right by the water.



The kids each took a prime spot on one of the guys shoulders and watched in awe as the pole went up

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[caption id="attachment_500" align="aligncenter" width="332" caption="Xana took daddy Lee's shoulders"][/caption]

[caption id="attachment_498" align="aligncenter" width="332" caption="Nicholas is trying to show them how it's done"][/caption]


 

Then we had  a really nice picnic with rose wine, coffee, cake and biscuits whilst we waited for the dancing to start.







There is something so beautiful and magical about enjoying an outdoors picnic with friends and loved ones. The kids were running wild, and the grownups enjoyed lots and lots of friendly chatting and bantering, the air smelled sweetly of cake, wine, flowers and that particular green smell of trees. It was lovely!

Soon we heard the sound of music starting, and we could see a long chain of men, women and children holding hands and winding themselves down towards the maypole and slowly,slowly building a whirlwind of people snaking around and around the huge pole. There was nothing to do but join in!



This is Kenny's picture of the people lining up to get close to the pole.

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By the end of the dancing which I ended before it was over due to my aching arms, Nicholas does way 12 kg.I was tired and warm and so full of happiness over enjoying such silly dancing to funny songs around the maypole. Nicholas was ready for a nap. All that dancing and clapping got him tired!





We stayed at our picnic spot for another hour or so, and then made our way back to the Baxter residence to start getting the food ready, and the barbeques lit.



The men enjoyed playing some football



whilst Karin and I finished up things in the kitchen





Nicholas enjoyed playing with Jessie's stroller





Danielle got things set out for the kids so they could eat first



and we finally found out how many men you need to barbeque some meats







And when the kids finally sat down to eat they went quiet... the kind of quiet that means that they are enjoying the food too much to talk ,and that all the running around outdoors the whole day has given them a voracious appetite. They were so cute there they were sitting at their little "big-kids" table



And when the rest of us sat down it went quiet for a bit too, as all of us took the first bite of our delicious food, and then the talk and laughter broke loose as everyone commented on how good the food was, how good the wine was, and how good the company was. Toasts were made to the hosting couple, and wine was drunk. It was beautiful...

After spending an hour or so at the table we spread out across the lawn, and in to the neighbours lawn as well as the game KUBB was played with great gusto from both young and old, the guys went back to their football playing, and I just sat there and enjoyed it all so much.

There is nothing better than spending a beautiful day outside with friends, good food and delicious wine. I put Nicholas to bed in the guest bedroom, and sat with Danielle just enjoying the fact that he was sleeping soundly, and that the other kids were busy playing. We could sit and chat without interruptions, and when Karin announced around 10pm that the cake and coffee was ready, the darkness and the chill that comes with a setting sun, had crept up on us. The extra pair of sweats and shoes I had brought



and the white fleece blankets Karin supplied came in handy as we sat down to enjoy the marvelous strawberry cake





and would you believe that the kids were still sticky and warm from all the running around!



the cake was delicious, and the coffee too. The feeling of hot coffee as it hits your palate after a sweet piece of cake is just heaven!





We ended up staying until around 11pm, and the only reason we left then was that the boys had training in the morning, and needed to be fresh and rested..It was a great day, in great company, and hopefully a new midsummer tradition.

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As for today it has been one of those lazy days so far. The rain was pouring down earlier, and both Nicholas and I was tired from yesterday so we decided to spend the morning inside. He is sleeping now, and Kenny too- so after I'm done with this post I have some laundry waiting to be folded and a vacuum-cleaner to drag around the house before we go to the play land this afternoon.

Hope all of you had a great midsommer/St.Hans celebration too!